Stepping out of characterJune 9, 2011 at 3:06 pm | Posted in art, Change the World, country living, faith, family, knitting, Life, love, marriage, photography, relationships | 7 Comments
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5:32 p.m. 9 June 2011 — Update to today’s blog | This just in: I just posted several fine art photographs of tree peonies from this season in my new fine art Etsy store.
I don’t use my blog to discuss my personal opinions on music, movies, television shows, politics, specific religions, etc. Instead, I try to devote my writing to overall spirituality, inspiration, creativity, epiphany, struggle leading to triumph, beauty, gratitude, and so forth. Mixing is personal commentary regarding preferences in entertainment or opinions as to politics and specific religious beliefs is not a good fit and in reality I don’t have any desire to share or impose my personal tastes in that regard on others.
That having been said, I am going to step somewhat out of character and talk about something I saw on a television show — The Voice. This morning over coffee and toast my daughter and I were watching our recording of last evening’s The Voice (NBC). If you are not following the show, it is a competition between four highly successful and talented vocal stars who are coaching their personal choices of up and coming vocal competitors — a sort of a double whammy competition because the “coaches” are competing to see who can pick and coach the one voice that is chosen by American voters at the end as being the best of the best, but then the vocal talent (32 in all) are competing against each other as well.
Featured in this week’s competition is a particular fellow who I want to say a little something about, his name is Jared Blake. When I heard him sing this morning, he put so much emotion into his performance of a perfectly chosen song that I cried a pretty good cry over it all. He touched me, and it led to me thinking more this morning about his particular story and the potential I see therein.
This is what I love about his story: he has lived a less than admirable life. He has done bad things, he has abused alcohol and I don’t know what else. He got married, and he fathered six little girls. And at some point he realized he needed to clean up his life and try to be the kind of guy that would be good enough for his daughters.
The song he sang last night, and honestly I don’t remember the specific song he sang last night. What I do remember is that he put his entire heart and soul into singing that song. When a singer gets that full-blown insight into their heart of hearts moving up through the body, out through their vocal chords and way out into the atmosphere, those who listen feel it reverberating through their own spirits and it is magical.
Singing aside, what I really want to write about regarding Jared’s story is the fact that I believe he could inspire others to do something that is very healthy — take a good look at yourself and figure out if you live up to the standards you set for the kind of people you would want your own children to hang out with, date, fall in love with, and possibly marry.
My point is that it is healthy to take stock of yourself (over and over and over again throughout life really) and find something you could improve on, and perhaps thinking of it in terms of how you measure up to the example that should be set for your own children or grandchildren is the best place to start. None of us are perfect, some are flawed and some are extremely flawed and there isn’t a one of us who has no room for improvement.
There are some things that are obvious to improve on, in Jared’s case it was alcohol abuse. There are plenty of subtleties also, that bear looking into. For instance, am I as patient with others as I should be. Do I truly look at others with actual love in my heart, love being unconditional. Am I more tolerant of myself than I am of others? Am I slower than slow to anger, quick to be supportive and understanding? Do I freak out over things that are trivial, when I should set an example of calm? Was a I kind, inside myself, toward the stranger or for that matter toward the strange person I encountered? Was I quick to forgive, rather than feeling justified in holding a grudge.
This is just the tiniest start, but I could list a million questions in searching my own soul, how about you? I do plenty of good things in life, I know that. I know myself to be kind-hearted, loyal, hard working, and so forth. But still, I can honestly ask myself all of the questions above and plenty more because I cannot live without making errors, large and small — hard though I may try. And I seek to make it difficult for me to live with myself if I don’t find and correct even the smaller imperfections in my nature — not so that I may strive to be perfect, because that is something I do not care to be. No, I do it because I strive to set and live up to standards within myself that are worthy of the love of god and the innocence of a baby’s smile.
I dare say, let us all take a little opportunity here to take a look at the lives we live, in the big ways and the small way,s and see what we could improve about the example we are setting not only for our own children, but for the children, the children of the world. Are we doing everything we can to be the kind of people we want these little ones to grow up into? Are we taking some things for granted that if we just looked at a little bit more closely we might want to change.
My hope for Jared is my hope for you and I and many others out there, that whatever the outcome of the vocal competition some of us may take the time to think about Jared’s story and apply it to ourselves in whatever way we can. May he inspire others to be better men, better women, better mothers and better fathers. May we be humbled in a healthy way by the honesty he has displayed on national television. May we be moved to change through self improvement, and to find surprising things about ourselves that we could improve … for our children and for the children.
Best wishes to you Jared, in your most precious quest.
And by the way, we absolutely loved your performance.
Now, onto more mundane matters. My readers, I have been doing some surveys over the past few months for a client I do some writing for. I am doing a series of surveys over the next couple of weeks that I could really use your help with. If you can take the time to answer a few questions, I would appreciate it. We will be awarding a couple of $25 Amazon Gift Certificates to two survey participants at the conclusion of this set of surveys. (Sorry, but these surveys are limited to U.S. residents.)
For this survey, you start by answering a question right here. These are qualifying questions:
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You might also be interested in knowing what I have featured in my photos today, what story do they tell? In the first photo, you see our very first peach that we are growing ourselves. We put in four fruit trees in our yard last year: a cherry tree, a honey crisp apple tree, and two peach trees. The two peach trees have fruit on them; we have counted nearly two dozen peaches so far between to the two trees. When I was a teenager, my family rented a house that had a magical peach tree. That tree produced a steady stream of perfectly delicious peaches in such abundance we didn’t know what to do with them all. I ate peaches for every meal while they were coming in, and we made peach pies, and peach marmalade, and peach ice cream. We gave peaches away to everyone who would take them. They were incredible. That summer left me being a big fan of peaches, and so is my husband as it turns out. So, we are very much looking forward to our very own, productive peach trees.
The next photos if of one of our mulberry trees, surrounded at the base by alliums, with the willow tree in the background. This shot shows you something of how green and alive things are around here.
The third photo is of a wild duck swimming in our springtime pond — water that fills up a shallow area by our willow tree each spring as the snow melts and takes some amount of time to disappear. This year the pond has been larger and more persistent than usual because we have had record rain fall. The other thing we have had is several ducks calling our little pond home this spring. We were out in the yard, and this one came in quacking, flying low and landed very gracefully then continued quacking as he swam around the pond.
As for the fourth photo, this old wheelbarrow was stuffed into a brushy area back behind our barn. I noticed it this winter, late enough to where enough snow had melted and I could see it. My husband pulled it out for me, and I just love it. It has a metal wheel and the handles are rusted off. I will fill it flowers soon, and hopefully have photos of that to share sometime soon.
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